Add Contrast to Your Personality to Strengthen Your Relationships — “Being chosen is the greatest gift you can give to another human being.” ~ Trevor Noah That quote has been sitting with me a lot lately. One of the most fundamental lessons we’re taught as children is the “golden rule” — that we should treat others how we want to…

A Plea to Live in Your Environment Again — A bit of a rant here. We all know entertainment is brainwashing. What you consume defines how you think. It’s ultimately a tool you can use to fundamentally change your worldview for better or worse. An Ode to Internet Role Models Analyzing the Real Value of Social Media to Self-Healmedium.com Of all forms of entertainment, music is definitely the most “brainwashable” one. It’s designed to…

A Note to Self-Development Content Creators — It’s long been said that the key to success in the modern world lies in the ability to delay gratification. Saying no to the abundance of instant pleasures at our disposal in pursuit of something more long-term. That logic works flawlessly across nearly any pursuit, from exercise to eating healthily…

In Praise of the Cordial, Intense Argument — A few weeks back, I had one of the most validating experience of my life. I was at a comedy club in Brooklyn hanging with some friends after one (DJ Oolong in the hooouuuuse) performed his set for the first time. I’m not sure how it came up, but I had just re-watched Parasite and firmly believed it didn’t hold up the second time around…

Intimacy is not Scalable — As I’ve slowly come around on online dating, a topic I’ve been staunchly on both sides of during my time living in New York (more here), I’ve begun to re-examine my relationship with the other “digital vice” I think plagues our generation: social media. I’ve been off all social media…

Reflecting on my Experiments with Physical Self-Expression — Over the last few months, I’ve been doing a lot of inner work. My pieces since mid-December have talked primarily about an area of my personality that I’ve unlocked through a new hobby (standup, improv, dancing) or a mindset shift that has come from personal reflections. In a nutshell, my…

My Experience Learning to Embrace Process & Unlearn “Right” — Let me set the scene. The date’s February 5th. Saturday. I wake up that morning after what was undoubtely one of the worst nights of my life. Tons of emotional turmoil, anxiety, stress, self-criticism. Having not slept well, I feel tired and heavy, yet still force myself out of bed…

The Most Underrated Way to Test Compatibility — I’ve been on a bit of a bender lately (by my standards). Going out more than I ever have before, staying out late, being irresponsible, doing irresponsible things, having so much fun. My most recent escapade was going out dancing until 3:30 last night, first at a music hall in…

Panic porn & why I’m losing faith in us — I have a feeling this is going to offend people, but I have to get this off my chest. I was home recently and tried to get my family to go with me to see Spiderman on Christmas Eve. Candidly, they said “I’m still afraid of COVID.” That’s one of…